Positivity Challenge #2

I will do my self-instructions 2 times a day for 10 days.

10/26 (Day1)

Everyday I get close to my goals.

I emphasize the positive in everything I do. I look at the good that can come out of every situation. I talk about the best qualities of every person I meet.

Monica is so beautiful. It's like fucking a supermodel, hot college co-ed.

I concentrate on the good aspects of every place and things. In both thoughts and speech I chose positive words to describe everything.

My parents are so awesome and encouraging about Richard.

I am in favor of doing so, so that I will constantly be building my resistance to pessimism. I stay positive because success is positive, and that's the side I always want to be on.

I always do the most productive thing possible at every given moment.

11/1 (Day2)

Everyday I get closer to my goals which is to feel healthy, great, positive, and optimistic.

I emphasize the positive in everything I do. I look at the good that can come out of every situation. I talk about the best qualities of every person I meet. I concentrate on the good aspects of every place and things. In both thoughts and speech I choose positive words to describe everything.

Richard is really enjoying his life. He is healthy, happy, and doing his own thing. I am in a great place in my life. I am healthy, wealthy, and has a hot tall blonde girlfriend!

I will constantly be building my resistance to pessimism. I stay positive because success is positive and that's the side I always want to be on.


11/2 (Day3)

Everyday I get closer to my goals. I will have a nice girlfriend, feeling positive, hopeful, optimistic, healthy, and strong.

Today is going to be a great day. I am energized. I feel like a million bucks. I am feeling good. I've got a good feeling about today. I feel happy, joyful, peaceful, and restful. I feel strong, confident, and powerful. I feel well rested, energized, and renewed, and refreshed. I feel positive, and optimistic. I am a tough minded optimist. I have what it takes to make it in this world. I am a world beater. Nothing can stop me, and nothing can get me down.  I am a fighter, a warrior, a finisher. I always finish what I start. I am a overcomer, an achiever. I am a success, a winner. I am loved. I always fight because I am a fighter. I always win because I am a winner. I always achieve because I am an achiever. I always believe because I am a believer. I always finish things because I am a finisher. Life is good, and its only getting better

Everyday in every way I am getting better and better, stronger and stronger, wiser and wiser, healthier and healthier, freer and freer.

I emphasize the positive in everything I do. I look at the good that can come out of every situation. I talk about the best qualities of every person I meet. I concentrate on the good aspects of every place and things. I stay positive because success is positive, and that's the side I am always on!!!

11/5 (Day4)

My goal is to be a healthy, strong, positive, optimistic, relaxed, and confident person.  Every day I can see myself getting closer and closer to my goals.

I smile everyday. I look for situations to laugh!

I emphasize the positive in everything I do. I look at the good that can come out of every situation. I talk about the best qualities of every person I meet. I concentrate on the good aspects of every place and things. In both thought and speech, I chose positive words to describe everything. I am in favor of doing so, so that I will be constantly be building my resistance to pessimism. I stay positive because success is positive, and that's the side I always want to be on.

Today in going to be a great day. I feel energized. I feel like a million bucks!!! I feel happy, joyful, restful, and peaceful.

I will watch my internal dialogue, and make sure I am giving myself the appropriate self-instruction to make me a positive, healthy, confident, successful person.

11/13 (Day 5)

Everyday I get closer to my goals of being healthy, strong, positive, optimistic, relaxed and confident.

Laugh, smile.

I emphasize the positive in everything I do. I look at the good that can come out of every situation. I talk about the best qualities of every person I meet. I concentrate on the good aspects of every place and things. In both thoughts and speech, I chose positive words to describe everything. I am in favor of doing so, so that I will constantly be building my resistance to pessimism. I stay positive because success is positive, and that's the side I always want to be on.

Positivity Challenge

Day 1 (9/24) was the first day 1 of my positivity challenge. The goal is to review my positive self-instructions 3 times a day for 21 days straight.

Day 2 (9/25) - I've done it twice. I will do it again before I go to sleep. Not sure if I reviewed my instructions. I got drunk with Monica. Every time I feel negative I will do the challenge.

Day 3 (9/26) - Done twice already. I may have missed the 3rd review yesterday. I will make up for it by doing one more review today. Life gets busy. Unexpected events occur, but I will find ways to maintain the spirit of consistency.

Day 4 (9/27) - Completed

Day 5 (9/28) - Completed

Day 6 (9/29) - Completed. I am already feeling like a more positive person.

Day 7 (9/30) - Completed.

Day 8 (10/1) - Had a wonderful dinner with Monica. Complete.

Day 9 (10/2) - Completed.

Day 10 (10/3) - Completed

Day 11 (10/4) - Completed

Day 12 (10/5) - Completed. I took Monica out to dinner. We came back and had good sex :)

Day 13 (10/6) - Completed. Monica came over and we chilled by the pull. Then we had amazing sex.

Day 14 (10/7) - Completed.

Day 15 (10/8) - Completed. I went to the symposium on Big Data. It was lots of fun.

Day 16 (10/9) - Completed. I had dinner at Monica's place. She cooked. It was wonderful.

Day 17 (10/10)

Day 18-21 (10/11-1014)

Discussion with Luis - 2

I had a talk with my mentor Luis on Wednesday. We talked about often guys look through glasses that sees flaws and negativity. Instead, we should see the best in girls. We should look for reason to connect.

There is nothing to worry about. Worrying in a feminine trait. There is no good or bad decision.

Luis also suggest that I write a letter to my mom.

Dear Mom,

I like to call you Mommy, but I am all grown up now. I will just address you as mom. I am an adult, I can make my own decisions. You have nothing to worry about. Everything will be ok. I am now in a place where I am confident in my choices in life.

I make my own money. I for sure make enough money to live comfortably, and you have nothing to worry about. In fact, everyday I am in charge of people's lives. People's live are in my hand. I have to have a high level of judgement and responsibility to do that. I handle my own finances. I certainly seek out women myself and decide who I want to see and date. I've lived by myself for so many years. I cooked and cleaned for myself. Sure I've had some health scares, but I've managed to make it through. I appreciate your help and concern.

Yes I live thousands of miles away, and I think about you and dad everyday. I am responsible for myself. Don't worry a bit. I will take care of you.  

This is a necessary rite of passage for me to be a grown man. I am a gown-up. For god sake I am 42 years old. I can just imagine having my own family, wife, children. I will talk to you frequently, but probably less often. I will make more decisions on my own. I will let go of your financial support. I don't need it. As great as it is to have the money, it is more important for me to develop a sense of independence, confidence, and manhood.

Thank you for everything Mom. I will talk to you soon.

- Jack

Day 33

2 Approaches

Total 28

Day 32

12 Approaches

26 Total

Review priorities, hobbies.

- Painting
- Photography - 10 photoshoots
- Krav Maga
- Working out
- Diet
- Traveling
- Pick-up
- Socializing
- Salsa

Day 31

About 7 approaches

Day 30 - Sunday

Goal - be more commanding, lead
Always be closing

Beach game

1 - Married with tramp stamp
2 - Podiatry medical student
3 - Russian girl
4 - German girl

Promanade

5 - Hot blonde
6 - Tall blonde
7 - Barns and Nobel sitting

Day 29 - Saturday

I did a little bit of night game.

1 - OC girls
2 - Blonde advertising girl
3 - Hello kitty
4 - Getting married - should have engaged other girls
5 - Georgia - walked away. Next time have more of "Chris's vibe"
6 - Squeezed asian girls arm - next time tell her "come here"
7 - Mexican girls - good at story telling and push-pull

Shoot for ABC. Always be closing.

Total of 34 Approaches this week, well short of the 60 I wanted to do.

Day 28 - Friday

Did AA Drill where I introduce myself to 20 girls

I also went to a young professional meet-up. I talked to 4 girls that I was sexually interested in. I got 1 number. I need to remind myself to talk about fun things to do, and get number sooner rather than later.

I also need to follow up on this girl. I don't mind fucking her just once or twice.

Day 27

4 Approaches at Target

Day 26

9 Approaches in the Pasadena

Day 22

Made 6 approaches at mall near beach. One girl told me she's been approached 4 times already. I ended up talking to this Russian girl for a while and got her number.

Day 21

Made about 8 approaches of girls that I am interested in. One who was rude that I would not want to fuck anyway. I got into a decently long conversation with one Mexican chick that ended up no where.

10 Pick-up Skills

1 - Body language, smile eye contact, tonality

2 - Opening - be present, observe what is going on
Can I say something? Can I give you a complement?

3 - Polarize, screen, teasing, push-pull (Aren't you gonna tell me I am attractive also? You have a strong hand shake?

4 - Conversation question
- Focus on the present, if nothing to focus on then
- What brings you out today? What are you up to today? I like your accent, let me guess where you are from? I like your style, are you a......

5 - Leading, dominance, mini-venue change

6 - Story telling, I-statement, relating, talking about human relationships, personalities

7 - Sexualization (eye contact, SOI, future projection) maintaing the intent

8 - Qualification

9 - Instant date

10 - Deep rapport 80% comfort, 15% attraction, 5% sexualization (4 questions, eliciting value)

Day 20

Uneventful day despite mass approaching. I don't think mass approaching at the mall during a weekday is very productive. I got good responses from a few girls, one number, but overall nothing to speak of.

Perhaps I should approaches later in the day.

Had a super fun night of making out, dancing with this Indian chick, but botched the pull.

Thoughts on dating goals

I've had my share of one night stands, making out with girls in bars and clubs. I had some cool same night pull from bars where I fuck the girl good. It was awesome. I pulled a girl in Vegas for sex. That was awesome too. I've fucked tall skinny blond with nice tits. I've fucked short cute blond girl. I've even fucked a stripper. How much more do I want? How much more do I need? Is it really a desire for experience or is it an issue of ego where I will only feel adequate as a man if I have all these crazy conquests.

No one can have every crazy type of sexual experiences the world has to offer. Even Chris the GLL never get to travel the world and fuck exotic foreign women. When you get to a certain degree, it becomes an obsession, a fetish.  My sexual hunger is not even that great. So what do I really want?

One thing I know right now is when I meet a really cool girl such as Monica, I was ready to settle down. A cool, attractive, intelligent girl that comes along, I am ok to wrap it up :)

Another part of this is getting good at this picking up women stuff. I've invested so much time in this I feel like I need to get good at this. This is a fair pursuit. Am I OK with trading this for meeting the right girl for me. Think hard about this. When you meet that right girl, it is not bailing out of them game. It is not quitting. Success is defined by giving it all I got given the confines of the circumstance. The circumstance is that I am getting older. As long as I practice my pick up deliberately, intelligently, continuously, that in itself is success.

So what now?

I will go out once a week to practice picking up women. The skill to relax, connect, lead, a girl is what I need. The notches on the belt is more for an ego boost. Whether I reach that goal or not, its not a big deal. So I basically have 4 1/2 month. That's about 18 weekends. During this time I will also approach girls during the day, and hopefully meet someone special.

Day 19

I met a cute German student here on internship.

Day 18

Again, a lot of rejections or girls engaged or have boyfriends.

At some point my mind got really negative. But now looking at this journal, I am only at day 18, and I already had some crazy adventures.

I am going to log some of the better interactions. Keep things positive.

Missy - cute girl in Pasadena. We had a great conversation, but she told me she is very specific about the type of guys she dates. I bailed out, but she seemed to wanted to talk some more. Come on girl, you rejected me and still expect me to keep you company?

Russian singer -  I had a nice flirtatious conversation with this leggy Russian singer. It was fun despite her having a BF.

Melanie -  Good response, but reluctantly gave me her number.

Netflix girl - Got a business card from her, but she seemed reluctant to go out.

Duke girl - I have a fun conversation with this smart graduate student, but she is engaged. Next time lead, lead. If the vibe is decent, take her hand and lead fro 30 seconds.

Savannah - good response, number close. I should have develop more rapport.

Honestly 12 out 14 girls gave polite to good response.

Next time - lead, lead, venue change.

Day 17

Did about 14 approaches using the, "Do you want to go one a date?" approach.

Next time, I will do a little more rapport and  be persistent and ask both about tonight and tomorrow night's availability.

Day 16

I did mass approaching without outcome expectations today. I felt much better. I did 12-13 approaches in under 2 hours.

Day 13,14,15

A month a go while browsing Craig's list I found this sublet for a studio on the beach. The price was very reasonable so I decided to rent it for the weekend.

Day 1

I got there late Friday afternoon and hit the beach.

Latvia model - I saw this beautiful body lying down so I went over to hit on her. She's a model from Latvia sent by her agency to US. We small talked a little. I asked her to put sunscreen on me, and I joked that she should give me a massage. She said she doesn't know how.I then put sunscreen on her, and I told her I am gonna give her a massage. She enjoyed the massage, but when I got to her legs and thighs she seemed uncomfortable and shifted around. To be honest I really didn't feel the sense of entitlement with a girl of this caliber. I let her up, chat a bit more, and asked her to dial my number in her phone. I moved on to find more DTF girls. Unfortunately the next 2 girls gave me BF story.

That night my buddy came over, and we went to a bar nearby that was teeming with hot girls. I really didn't feel tremendous amount of social freedom. I approached about 5 girls. The 5th one was this half Japanese/Chinese girl. She seemed pretty into me, but some guys they knew came and offered to buy them shots. Despite seeing her again later, and she gave me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek, all I got was a flake #.

Day 2

Rehab chick - Next morning I went to work and came back to hit the beach around 3 pm. It was cloudy, not much action. I saw this one chick, and I approached her. I held back my my complement when I realized she's not that hot. Since I initiated the conversation I ended up sitting down and talked to her. She said she's got a can of beer, but probably can't drink on the beach. I told her I have cups back at my place. Long story short, she came back to my place. We split the beer, but the more I looked at her, the more distasteful she looked. She saw my tequila and asked for a shot, and spill her alcoholic rehab story. WTF? She asked for another shot as I booted her out of my place.

Italian Cutie - After a little break I went out again. Fucking cloudy weekend. I finally spotted a cutie and hit her up. She was smiling ear to ear. I found out she's Italian. She has a gorgeous body. She's a swimmer. I tried my best to small talk, but she didn't talk much maybe because of nerves or language barrier. Same drill, I asked her to put sunscreen on me, me giving her a massage. This time I decided to be more commanding. I told her to lay flat, arms relaxed, and I gave her a good massage. When I massaged her thigh and legs she didn't flinch so I got bolder. I moved my hands up between her butt. I could see where she shaved her private parts. I touched her briefly, she flinched a bit, and I back off. I tried it again and touched the outside of her pussy and felt her wetness. She flinched again and I backed off. I felt I pushed it far enough. I put my arm around her, and I moved in to kiss her. She told me she has a BF. Oh well. As a formality, I exchanged FB info with her, and she thanked me for the nice massage. In my mind, I thought, "But I didn't give you a happy ending!"

Russian girl - On the way back I hit up this Russian girl reading at the beach. It was a situation opener so I never expressed my intent. Anyways, I invited her back to my place. She came over, but just wanted to stand at the door to chat and read her stupid book. Eventually my buddy came, I got her #, and booted her.

Icelandic girl - We went back to the same club. The line was f-ing long. We chatted up these 2 Scandinavia girls in line. They seemed down. I spent like 1 1/2 hours flirting with the Icelandic girl when deep down inside I knew she wasn't DTF. My freaking wing lost his girl to some ugly persistent dude. His 2 friends also kept trying to jack my girl. To be honest, I didn't feel very confident in that club. There were a lot of hot tall blonde girls, but all the dude looked like Abercrombie and Fitch models. And these guys were fearlessly approaching too, and they were loud and having fun. That was the reason I hung on to my non DTF girl. Anyways, that was the night.

Day 3

I was wiped so I slept in till 12. Again, cloudy day.

Hot stripper - I spotted this girl lying on the beach with her luggage on a bed sheet. I chatted her up. She was very low energy, but she told me she had a fight with her BF last night and he kicked her out. Blah, blah. She asked me if she can give me some money to use my shower and change into her bikini. I said, "yeah, for $200, j/k" She came over and went into my bathroom. The stupid bathroom door doesn't close. As she undressed, I could not help look in to check out her body. Damn, natural perky big C cups, long legs and a nice ass. I started talking to her while she showers, and somehow she told me she works at a strip club. For some reason I got really bold, and walked into the bathroom, pull the shower curtain aside to ask her if everything is alright. I didn't know what got into me next. I walked into the shower in my board short, and asked her if I could shower with her. I took off my shorts and started showering with her. She seemed uncomfortable so I got out and she got out. I told her I saw her gorgeous body and could help myself. Despite that, everything seemed cool again. She was chilling on the futon while I walked around naked making a smoothie. She sipped some smoothie. Same old drill again. I told her I was gonna give her a massage, and she agreed. I started massaging her on my bed. She knew I was naked when she agreed to the massage, but once I started massaging her she was like, "can you at least put your shorts on?" So I went to put my shorts on, but now she's acting all weird again. She was like, lets go hang out at the beach. Whatever. I let her out. Anyways, about 20 minutes later, the girl leasing me the studio came back. Even if I had gotten anywhere she would have cock blocked me haha. 


Later that day, the soul mate that I met online texted me back and told me a guy she was casually dating before asked her to be exclusive, wtf? Where did that came from? I guess I couldn't be too hard on her since I was creeping a dozen girl on the beach. To be honest I felt pretty bad though.

Lesson learned. I promise myself to write down positive thoughts.....

- This is one strange weekend that I will never forget. These are the stories that can only occur with this crazy cold approaching business.
- Yea, I pushed too far with the stripper. It was totally uncalibrated. I think me being ethnically different from the white girls that I am approaching, I need to build some comfort and rapport. I know Chris doesn't believe in rapport, but hell if Price Charming comes to sweep up the princess, there's no need for rapport because she's been dreaming about a guy like him her whole life. I think it's good to develop the skill to express myself and get someone else to open up themselve.
- Super hot young girls are receptive me. Honestly I wouldn't call it attraction, but they certainly gave me a chance. The Latvia model and the Italian chick were both between 18-20 years old.
- I need to learn to be commanding. It's not just telling girls to do things. It's instructing her with sincerity , kindness, masculinity. The tonality, masculinity, and the decisiveness  has to be all congruent.
- For the first time I went for a kiss during the day. Failed, but I was proud of myself. 

Let's all for now. I got a few pictures that I may imbed if I have time.

 Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.

John Wooden Coach UCLA

Day 12

I decided to log all my approaches today on my I phone to see if there's a pattern to what I am doing right or wrong.

1 - Girl looking for Pink Berry - She responded well, I should have walked with her to Pink Berry.
2 - Hot New Zealand blond - Again, good response. She was leaving US the next day, but I should at least get her logistics for the day.
3 - MBA girl - I got her number, but again, the conversation drift off to topics instead of talking about her and me.
4 - Curious George - not interested, but there was a little banter going on. Even when a girl is not available, make a light-hearted joke. Amuse yourself.
5 - Hot dog girl - walking set. Good fun conversation. Got #, but no response. Need to try to move girl to the side. Lead, lead, lead.
6 - Married - walking set. Good try for a walking set.
7 - Indian girl - Boyfriend. No available. Not too attracted to her.
8 - Halo - venue change to drinks. Could have made conversation more sexual? Could also set a firm day 2. Pussied out.

I think there is a pattern of playing it safe, basking in the warm of the girl's validation. It's almost counter intuitive. When the girl respond well, I premature eject. When the girl respond well, I should lead, push, until she ejects.

Day (11)

Another half ass day. I spent most of my time shopping to complete a more edgy outfit. One revelation today was on body language. I learned that by consciously taking on an alpha posture during day to day activity, it will change my body chemistry so that when I actually interact with a girl, I will automatically be masculine and dominant.Anyways, I got a number from this J-girl that I am not super interested in.

Day 10 (Date)

This is Parker Hurley. He is the shortest male model I can find 6 foot, 170 lbs. This is realistically the body I can shoot for. Edgy looking dude huh?

I spent most of this Sunday lounging around. In the evening I have a date with a girl I met on Match a year ago. She called me out of nowhere. She's pretty cute so I figure I'll go meet up with her. Before my date I swung by the supermarket and Target, and made couple of approaches.  Regarding the approaches, I think I still need to be mindful of my vocal projection. Maybe I should be more focused on dominance which would entail everything else.

Anyways, I had to drive pretty far to meet this 24 y/o. It kind of pissed me off since originally she was coming up to see me. I am going to make a long story short. This girl was very affectionate the minute she met me. She tickled me and gave me a big hug. During dinner she was touching me, and I had my hands all over her. I think she has some daddy issues. Even after I told her I am 17 years older than her, she was ok with it. I am not going to be too critical of people. Everyone has issues. The bigger problem was that she insisted on not having sex unless she really trust the guy and knows he is serious. This little girl really wants to get married. I tried to ignore her. After dinner we went for a walk, and I just started talking a bit dirty to her. I have no idea where this is going. If it's no too much trouble, I'll continue to see this girl.

This evening was more important in terms of my overall understanding of women and what I want. The blond on Friday was an intellectual equal, a friend. The girl tonight was more a little doll, who will serve me, suck me when I tell her. With a friend, I feel like I can go farther in life. We can enrich each other. Will I need my ego stroked? Maybe. This certainly will be missing in an intellectual counterpart. I do know that I want a more sophisticated girl, and this 24 y/o is not. She's way too pragmatic. A life of fantasy and wishful think can get you in trouble, but I still strive for some margin of creativity and living on the edge. I will let the story continue and evolve.

Day 9 (Approaches and Date)

Location: Supermarket and Target around where I live

I made 1 approach at Target then I saw this other dude that was also doing approaches. That kind of threw me off. I tracked him down approaching this hot cutie that I spotted earlier. F-ck. I got my self together and made 2 more approaches where both girls had BF. I felt good though. Then I went to the supermarket and got a number from a cute Dutch girl.

I went home, ate my dinner, showered and got ready for my date. I met this girl online. I was kind of annoyed that she changed the plan on me. Initially she was gonna meet me at a bar near my place, but something about her car broke down, blah, blah. Anyways I head out to a bar near her place.

She showed up looking even better than her picture. Tall, blond, slim, wearing a nice dress and heels. I have no idea why she's interested in me. Once in a while I do attract these super smart, successful, type A girls. My only true girlfriend was a super smart girl who went to #1/#2 university in America. Same with this blond. She double majored in hard sciences at one of the top engineering school in US. She's very well read, friendly, energetic. Really a superwoman. Think of Cameron Diaz in Something About Mary.

Anyways, we had a lot in common. We talked about books, art, career, family. Talking is fine, but I want to exert my masculinity and leadership. Slowly I felt myself losing the grip on that. I did make a move to make out with her briefly. I was happy with that. It's one of my sticking point. I was annoyed that she was the one to call the end of the date. I was too caught up. We have been talking for 3 hours already. I should have recognized that and MOVE. I drove her home and kissed her goodnight.

Today I texted her. She responded, but then I texted her somehting about a picture of her lying by the pool. No answer yet. Oh well. We'll see. Although she will make a super girlfriend, but she may not be right for me anyway. I don't need a super high achiever. Also my mission is to bang a few more girls before looking for the ONE.

Day 8

Outdoor mall, after work 3pm

I try to adopt the screening mindset instead of reaction seeking mindset as much as I can.  I got the number from this beautiful Italian girl even though the conversation was pretty stilted.

Later on I sat down in front of this hot Australian blond actress. My vibe wasn't that masculine, but she was very talkative. She needed to go to the apple store so I took her there. We exchanged number, and I gave her a hug good bye.

For now I am gonna focus on this dominant masculine/feminine dynamic, screening by asking the girl if she finds me attractive, and holding hand for a bit longer.

I need to call a bunch of numbers tonight to set up some dates.

"When your desire to get laid is beyond your desire to get validation, you will get laid early and often." - GLL

Day 7

Again I did not approach and screen to the extent that I did during the AA program. I went out tonight to just chill with one of my buddies and 2 other pick-up guys.

I approached 2 Asian girl. One of them looked like she had tons of plastic surgery, NICE fake rack. I want to bang her hard :) I talked to her a little bit and got her number.

I then winged for my buddy. I thought he wanted the blonde girl, but it turned out he was not interested. She was alright. Cute face, but a little heavy set body. I was happy that I moved her around  the bar. I took her to different spots, and then I tried to make out with her. She said I was moving too fast. She ended up back with her friends for their b-day celebration. I think I could have waited for her to drink some more and tried for the make out again. Hindsight is always 20/20. I just got her number.

Not super eventful, but I felt good, and had a good time.

Day (4), (5), 6

Day (4)

I put day 4 in parentheses since I only went on a date that had almost no potential for sex.

I met up with the k-pop girl from yesterday for dinner. We went to a Korean Cafe, then I took her to see some tourist sites. She's way too shy and introverted. Most of the times she avoided my eye contact. I put my arm around her couple of times, and she didn't really cozy up to me. I figure that's a sign that she's not DTF. She didn't talk much either. I had to keep asking her questions. All in all it was OK. I think it was valuable to spend time with a young college girl. It will only make me more comfortable around them when I approach the ones that I like.

Day (5)

Another parenthesis day. I figure I'll give myself credit for it so I won't lose momentum, but honestly I hardly did jack yesterday. I was shopping for some new clothes for the summer, and I tried combining that with approaches. I just never picked up the momentum, and I was stuck in my head the whole time. Only made 5 approaches that were really half assed. Love Chris' audio though. Inspire me to go for the number even if I am in a hurry. Most of the times I really have to go somewhere, but now I know I can literally stop for 90 seconds and try to get a number.

Day 6

Another not so stellar day.

I haven't been feeling very relaxed when I approaches girls. Especially inside stores, my voice feel very stifled. Over the weekend, at the beach, I was relaxed, and I talked very freely. For me, I find if my voice sounds timid or stifled, the girl ignores me very quickly. I love listening to Chris' audios. He just talks so freely, a bit of an ass, and very masculine, and a bit dominant. That along with his looks, size, and presence, no wonder girls don't walk away from him.

Today I tried the "Aren't you gonna tell me I am attractive?" I am OK with doing that. I am not doing it to make a girl laugh. I throw that statement out there to further screen the girl. I want to screen for girls who find me attractive or just cool compliant girls. I don't want any feminine Nazi who's gonna talk shit back to me.

I got a number from this tall blonde Lithuanian chick. I text her tomorrow see if she responses.

Self-Discipline – How close your day-to-day behavior reflects the person you wish to be. This is a longer-term fidelity to how you envision your ideal self. Self-discipline, beyond simply persevering in the moment, represents a daily self-directness in all of your actions.

Action Plan

I am following Mark Manson's action plan for establishing a successful dating life. I will complete level 1 by the end of July along with the 17 days of approaching. 

Level 1

1 - Join a gym (done)
2 - Upgrade wardrobe - buy another pair of pants, sunglasses, watch, hat
3 - Job satisfaction - 10 days off/month. I will request another day off this month.
4 - Haircut - Haircut once/month. After each haircut, enter into I phone the next haircut due date
5 - Social hobby - Fashion photography, weekly dinner or drinks with friends. I will do one photo shoot this month, and make sure I meet up with non pick-up friends once a week.

Level 2

1 - Figure out the demographics of the girls that I want to date, and where I can meet these girls
I will check out MeditateinLA.org
2 - Approach 5 girls in a day
3 - Approach 20 girls in a week
4 - Online dating

Level 3

1 - Hold at least 30 minute conversation with women you just met
2 - Get 3 phone numbers from women you just met (done)
3 - Go on 2 dates
4 - Approaching 25 women in one weekend

Level 4

1 - Kiss 2 women
2 - Go on second date with the same woman
3 - Successful get a woman back to your place
4 - Get 5 phone numbers in one week

Level 5

1 - Have sex with a new woman
2 - Kiss a woman you just met that day/night
3 - Go on 3 first date with new women

Level 6

1 - Have sex with a woman you met that same day/night
2 - Have sex with a woman on the first date
3 - Kiss 3 women the day/night you meet them

Day 1-3

Day 1

I went to get my teeth whitened today. Hurts like hell right now.

I attempted to do the day 64 drill. It didn't go the way I wanted. It was harder than I thought. I don't want to jump to a conclusion, but I felt like whenever I do mass approaches, I become reaction seeking and outcome dependent. After a while I felt an inkling of neediness, anxiety when I am talking  to these girls. Somehow I am projecting this vibe of trying to get some task done. Maybe? I am not sure. A lot of girls although reacted well initially quickly gave me the BF brush off.  I only got into 8 conversations where I could ask for the number. I only got 2 numbers. Although both girls were super hot, one was a Bulgarian girl, and the other one this super hot Spanish PhD student, neither was really available.

What should I do next time??? mmm...

I think I'll try to have more fun. Play with the GLL routines - spin the girl, hold hands for a while, body guard, don't you think I am attractive also?? I am also gonna experiment in trying to get into a sexual state. When I talk to a girl, the purpose is to fuck her. I want to imagine what  it's like to fuck her when I am talking to her. I am trying to adopt the screening mindset. I think I need to combine it with sexual state or maybe it's the same thing. I can't totally embrace it yet.

Day 2

I went with my wing to the beach. He wanted to hang out with these RSD guys, whatever. I don't want to be a hater and tell him RSD is bullshit. There are actually RSD guys who are pretty good, but guess what, they are buffed, good looking approach machines who physically escalate relentlessly. I split off with these 3 other guys and did some warm up approaches. It was festival, fun to give girls hi-fives. I knew there was no point in traveling in a pack of 4 guys. After a while I went off to hit on the very few solo girl lying on the beach. The first girl was super cute, hot damn body in a red, white, and blue bikini lying on a USA flag beach towel. We talked a bit. I got her # and moved on.

The second girl I hit up was a layer traveling by herself for business.  Her hotel was like 100 yards away. I was such a pussy. I hated my self for being a pussy. I didn't open her direct, but at some point during the conversation I called her sexy, I squeezed her arm, I touched her thigh. All that, but I couldn't go for the kiss. In my mind, I was like, how do I move her, should I take her for a dip in the water, blah, blah. Man, I too way too long. I think even though she got turned on, she eventually got bored, got up, and told me she's been out in the sun too long and wanted to go back to the hotel. I was a pussy, I didn't know what to do, and got a useless number from her. Maybe she was DTF, the logistic were perfect, maybe not, but I never found out and I will always regret that.

Rest of the day was kind of silly and fun. My wing and some of the better RSD guys were trying to grab girls, lifting them up, trying to make out with them.

I need to ask Chris how he pulls the trigger to kiss girls during the day. At night, drinking, I can make out with girls no problem, but I have never done it during the day.

Day 3 

I hit the beach by myself again today.

Redhead - I hit up this red head tanning by herself. Ummm... I love her body. Tall, thick just at the right place, nice chest. A bit of old acne scar, but very cute face. She seemed to enjoy my company, we talked quiet a bit, but I just did not feel that animal attraction from her. I wanted to go in close and kiss her, but the vibe just wasn't there. I asked her to put sunscreen on my back which woke me a bit between my legs. I asked her if she wanted me to put sunscreen on her back, she said she's ok. I decided not to bring my phone to the beach coz my strategy was to take the girl into the water and try to make out there. So much for that. I gave her my number. I probably won't hear from her.

Russian girl - Cute Russian girl here to study English. She seemed nervous. Her posture was very uptight. Her English was pretty good, but it was challenging to be flirty with her. Btw she speaks Chinese lol. She doesn't have a US phone. I gave her my e-mail to find me in FB. Blah. Probably won't hear from her either. I got my picture taken with her to get some physical contact.

Japanese girl - I was more flirty with her. When a girl laughs a lot at the stupid things I said, I feel bolder with my escalation. I touched her more. I touched her tattoos on her back, but again, I didn't see how I could just go for the kiss right there. With her I got her to text me so I got her #.

I was hungry so I left the beach.....

K-pop white girl - Another white girl that speaks Chinese. How funny. This girl just spent a year in China, and is all into Korean pop music. Funny, shy girl. Super sweet. We chatted for a bit. She seemed too shy and sheltered, probably not DTF. WTF, no phone. I got her e-mail instead. I should have instant dated her. I told her we gonna grab dinner in Korea town tomorrow.

Strange day, but very pleasant. I really enjoyed all of my interaction with those 4 girls. I need to figure out how to go in for the kiss or maybe there's nothing to figure out. Maybe these are just friendly girls who enjoy a conversation with a stranger, but were not DTF.

These were pretty long interactions so I didn't get a massive number of approaches in. I know I wasn't really screening hard, but I do want to get comfortable chatting with girls.
  
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

― Winston Churchill

51 Days of Summer

After having done 50 Days of the AA program I decided I am sick and tired of doing the AA drills. The summer is here. The weather is nice. The beaches are gorgeous. The girls are wearing mini skirts and short, shorts. HOT, HOT, HOT. I am gonna give it a go with real approaches. I figure, if I could dedicate 50 days of my life to doing the drills, the least I can do is commit another 50 days, in this case 51 days over the next 3 months to screening pussy, and see if I can get laid. I could not get 50 Days of Summer address on blogger that's why is 51 days. I will start by doing the day 64 drill which is basically approach, small talk for 1-5 minutes, get the number.

This journal will span 3 months, around 90 days (July, August, September). I think it's perfectly reasonable to go out and approaches girls 51 out of 90 day. I am actually gonna make it easy for myself. Days where I am going on dates or getting laid with a new girl will count. This makes sense right? If I approach 26 days and have sex with 25 new girls on the other day, that would be fantastic :) Of course that's an extreme example.

Goals and milestones....

1 - 4 lays over 3 months. I have no idea if this will happen. I've always felt my sex life is a crap shoot. There was a small stretch in my life where I got laid by 3 news girls in 3 months, but there also literally years of dry spell. I guess that's why I am doing this, to take control over my sex life.

2 - Enjoy, appreciate, discover, learn, and have fun with women. I want to be super comfortable with girls at the end of all this. I also want to have fun while doing all this. What's the point of hitting the streets for 3 months and not having fun doing it. It's easier just to get a hooker.

3 - Working out and keep my body weight around 155 lbs while increasing strength. I should be more ripped doing this. I will also optimize my style. I am not going to work on my swag. I just want to see what kind of girls I can get being who I am right now.

July milestones....

Go out and approach 17 days.

Have at least 2 dates. If I am not getting dates then I am in big trouble. I have to re-evaluate. I either have to lower my standard or resort to online dating and hit the numbers hard. This is f-cking sales. Either you hit your targets or you bust. There's no alternative.

I am also incorporating some of the tougher AA drills from week 7 and 8 into my approaches or do them on separate days.

HERE WE GO.....