Confronting Fear and Completion of Tasks

Afraid to travel

Afraid to go out by yourself

Afraid of doing difficult cases

Afraid of bad investment

Finish

- Sailing

- Photography

Family Meeting 11/23

I watched a video by Anthony Robbins on belief and certainty.

I believe. I will live on the edge, but not too far beyond.



Notes from a natural, Chapter 1 - How badly do you want it? What is your number 1 goal?
Very few people can multi-task.

Affirmations. 

Don't start a new thing until you finish your old objective.

Things to do this week -
 
General personal growth
- Self Instructions
- Pack books, Kindle, and Elastic Bands for Boston

Relationship
- Change my Tinder pictures tomorrow.
- Look up Taiwanese online dating websites.
- Look up holiday parties and get pictures taken for holiday parties.
- Send out 40 messages a day Match

Health
- Finish Leg PT

Wealth
- CME

Family Meeting 11/18/2014

Just some thoughts on how awesome my family is. Mom and dad are wonderful, loving, patient, positive, and encouraging people. Grace is smart, successful. Richard has good taste, tall, carries himself well. I am handsome, smart, successful, wealthy, creative.

Look up to people for inspiration, but not for comparison.

I am going to dress well, treat myself with respect. Buy new glasses.

A reflection on success and priorities in life. It was a good talk with Jason Kim, and Stan.

What should I do this week???

Online vs daygame?

Jon sent out 600 messages in one month. That's 150 message in one week.
Widen the circle of search.
Contact model mayham photographers.

Family Meeting 11/3/2014

10 solid ibteractions

Family Meeting 10/27

Numer one priority is spouse and family. Among that. The priority is to reconnect with Monica, and day game. I want to push the edge of my comfort zone and interactions. Last time I made 80 approaches in 2 weeks? I am going to shoot for 80 approaches in 2 weeks then the next 2 weeks increase the number of quality interactions.

Book PT for next Monday?

Observe positive people and negative people and learn the behavior of the positive and eliminate negative behaviors.

Exercise to strengthen neck and upper back + thoracic spine extension

Family Meeting 10/19/2014

 Prioritize Items of Importance

• Health and fitness
• Spouse/partner
• Family
• Income
• Time for leisure and relaxation
• Friends
•  
• Stimulating/rewarding work
• Where you live
• Making use of talents
• Personal growth
• Professional growth
• Independence
•  
• Security
• Wealth/savings
• Prestige and status
• Influence and power
• Positive impact on society
• Spirituality/faith

Need to follow-up on the Weekly Agenda at least every other day.
Morning ritual - 3 self instruction every morning + 5 minutes of day planning
Evening Ritual - Thoracic spine stretch, meditation, wash face, flossing, brushing teeth


Health

Priority - stretch thoracic spine 4x week + Meditation
Continue hip therapy - PT this week
Cut down ETOH - 1/2 drink/day
Ground turkey, green pepper
Continue Latisse
Focus on shrugs for work out

IBS is still irritating, but improving.
- Eat clean
- Probiotics.
- Soluble fiber

Wealth 
 
Finish Huntington Application
CME
FB Michele Higley
Black Swan, Felix Dennis

Relationship

Monica
Contact Pam
What do I look for in a girl
Plan for Friday night
1- Buy plane ticket to Taiwan & Thanksgiving
2- Positivity challenge
3 - Organize notes from Luis
4 - No more Mr. Nice Guy
5 - Social hobbies

Send out 200 online messages. (2 hours)
Order ring
Order Tattos
LACMA

Social activities. Be a leader.
Prioritize my life. Marriage, children. 

October goals - 2 more high quality dates
Change age in Match.com by the end of month

1 -MIND – Be strong, be disciplined, be accountable. Love myself, live on the edge, face my fear, don’t make excuses, never quit.
2 -LIFE STYLE – Stay organized, enjoy the moment, appreciate the beauty in this world.
3 – MONEY – Invest wisely, avoid greed, keep my skills sharp, build/achieve.
4 – BODY BUILDING & NUTRITION – Stay healthy, balanced muscular development, improve explosiveness, posture, avoid toxic food for my body.
5 – PEOPLE – Don’t judge, appreciate people. Seek to connect. Respect myself, respect others. Be a leader. Be positive. Be authentic.
6 – WOMEN – Communicate, love and appreciate women. Put myself first. Set clear boundary from the beginning. Lead and protect.

Focus, discipline.

Family Meeting 10/12/2014

Need to follow-up on the Weekly Agenda at least every other day.
Morning ritual - 3 self instruction every morning + 4 minutes of day planning
Evening Ritual
- Thoracic spine stretch, meditation, wash face, flossing, brushing teeth


Health

Priority - stretch thoracic spine 4x week + Meditation
Continue hip therapy
Cut down ETOH - 1/2 drink/day
Ground turkey, green pepper
Continue Latisse
Focus on shrugs for work out

IBS is still irritating, but improving.
- Probiotics.
- Soluble fiber

Wealth 

Finish writing recommendation letter.
CME
FB Michele Higley
Black Swan, Felix Dennis

Relationship

Monica
Party planning
What do I look for in a girl
Plan for Friday night

1 - Update online profile
2 - Positivity challenge
3 - Organize notes from Luis
4 - No more Mr. Nice Guy
5 - Social hobbies

Send out 200 online messages. (2 hours)
Order ring
Order Tattos
LACMA

Social activities. Be a leader.
Prioritize my life. Marriage, children. 

October goals - 2 more high quality dates
Change age in Match.com by the end of month

1 -MIND – Be strong, be disciplined, be accountable. Love myself, live on the edge, face my fear, don’t make excuses, never quit.
2 -LIFE STYLE – Stay organized, enjoy the moment, appreciate the beauty in this world.
3 – MONEY – Invest wisely, avoid greed, keep my skills sharp, build/achieve.
4 – BODY BUILDING & NUTRITION – Stay healthy, balanced muscular development, improve explosiveness, posture, avoid toxic food for my body.
5 – PEOPLE – Don’t judge, appreciate people. Seek to connect. Respect myself, respect others. Be a leader. Be positive. Be authentic.
6 – WOMEN – Communicate, love and appreciate women. Put myself first. Set clear boundary from the beginning. Lead and protect.

Focus, discipline.

Family Meeting 10/5/2014

Need to follow-up on the Weekly Agenda at least every other day.
How to develop discipline
Start with low activation energy task that will catalyze the more challenging task
 - 3 self instruction every morning + 3 minutes of day planning
Wrap up the night with meditation, wash face, flossing, brushing teeth


Health

Physical therapy.
Forward head stretches
Start leg and core work out this week

IBS is still irritating, but improving.
- Probiotics.
- Soluble fiber
Latisse - Pick it up on Tuesday

Wealth 

Read Black Swan

Request Francis for recommendation letter.
Invest in S&P 500

Relationship

Pay Luis
Make appointment with Pam
What do I look for in a girl
Be a Legit Dirt Bag
As much I want to focus on 1 goal I need variety in my life to keep me happy and excited.

1 - Look up Marina Sailing
2 - Update online profile
3 - Meditate 4 times this week and visualize success every night
4- Positivity challenge - It's hard to be successful with women without feeling good.

Send out 200 online messages. (2 hours)
Order ring
Order Tattos
LACMA

Social activities. Be a leader.
Prioritize my life. Marriage, children. 

October goals - 2 more high quality dates
Change age in Match.com by the end of month

1 -MIND – Be strong, be disciplined, be accountable. Love myself, live on the edge, face my fear, don’t make excuses, never quit.
2 -LIFE STYLE – Stay organized, enjoy the moment, appreciate the beauty in this world.
3 – MONEY – Invest wisely, avoid greed, keep my skills sharp, build/achieve.
4 – BODY BUILDING & NUTRITION – Stay healthy, balanced muscular development, improve explosiveness, posture, avoid toxic food for my body.
5 – PEOPLE – Don’t judge, appreciate people. Seek to connect. Respect myself, respect others. Be a leader. Be positive. Be authentic.
6 – WOMEN – Communicate, love and appreciate women. Put myself first. Set clear boundary from the beginning. Lead and protect.

Focus, discipline.

Family Meeting 9/21/2014

Health

See Jason Snibbe.
Start light leg work out.
IBS is still irritating, but improving. Meal prep. Probiotics.

Goals for the week - Masturbate no more than 4 times.
Don't eat after 8 PM.

Wealth 

Read Black Swan

Request for recommendation letter.
Pay credit card bills.

Relationship

1 - 40 Day time approaches. 10 More until the end of the Month.
2 - Meditate 4 times this week. (done)
3 - Visualize success every night- keep working at it
4 - Teeth whitening 4 times. (done)
5 - Positivity challenge - It's hard to be successful with women without feeling good.
Finish uploading pictures (30 minutes)
Ask about renting conference room.(15 minutes)
Send out 80 online messages. (2 hours)
Order ring
Order Tattos
Contact Monica (done)
Contact Jennifer(done)

Social activities. Be a leader.
Prioritize my life. Marriage, children. 


1 -MIND – Be strong, be disciplined, be accountable. Love myself, live on the edge, face my fear, don’t make excuses, never quit.
2 -LIFE STYLE – Stay organized, enjoy the moment, appreciate the beautify in this world.
3 – MONEY – Invest wisely, avoid greed, keep my skills sharp, build/achieve.
4 – BODY BUILDING & NUTRITION – Stay healthy, balanced muscular development, improve explosiveness, posture, avoid toxic food for my body.
5 – PEOPLE – Don’t judge, appreciate people. Seek to connect. Respect myself, respect others. Be a leader. Be positive. Be authentic.
6 – WOMEN – Communicate, love and appreciate women. Put myself first. Set clear boundary from the beginning. Lead and protect.

Focus, discipline.

Affirmations

I am assertive.
I am dominant.
I am confident and unstoppable.
I fearlessly approach any woman.
I have fun approaching and flirting with women.
I approach women with fun, joy, and light heartiness.
I always have beautiful women around me.
My personality is magnetic.
Meeting women is easy.
I am super positive and outgoing.
Women are attracted to my ability to just be myself.
Meeting women is easy.
I can approach women and have fun no matter what happens.
I deserve to have beautiful women.
I am the prize.

12 Week Trainer

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/kris-gethin-12-week-daily-trainer-week-1-day-3.html

Game Tips

Teasing - Are you bringing me those brownies, playing on Pintrest, shopping for shoes?
Cold read -  you have a heart of gold, I can see you as a CEO.
Leading - Take hands and go. Tell her to do things "Put that back". Smile, you can do it.
Story telling with emotions - I perspective

San Diego Gas Lamp district - girl biker charge more than guy bikers
Chicago - The great lakes. It feels weird, it's like looking out in the Atlantic vs the Pacific
Australia - Melbourne, the hidden bars, copied from America's Speakeasy. St. Kilda.

Physical complement #2 - Like your style, you are in good shape. Male-Female.
Non-physical complement

Genuinely interested in her aspirations. I like entrepreneurs and creative people.

Basic questions
- Where are you from?
- How is your day?
- Tell me a bit about yourself?
- What are you up to today?
- What do you do?

Higher energy and more expressive
Practice day to day

Current Fitness Status

Swimming (12:30)

6/20 - 500 meters 15:14
400 meters 14:33
500 meters 16:00

Running (10:30)

1 mile - 10:25
1.5 miles - 14:40 (5/17/2014)

Biking

2 miles - 9:30

Push-ups (50)

(50 by 12/15, 45 by 6/15, 40 by 12/14, 38 by 11/14, 36 by 9/14, 33 by 7/14)

9/14/2014 2 minutes - 36 push-ups
7/28/2014 2 minutes - 35 push-ups
6/22/2014 2 minutes - 31 push-ups
1:30 minutes - 8 push ups
2 minutes - 20 push-ups 5/27/2014

Pull-ups (10)

(10 by 12/15, 8 by 6/15, 5 by 12/14, 4 by 10/14, 3 by 8/14, 2 by 7/14)

6/21/2014 - 1 pull-up

10 pull downs half way - weight 5

Strength and Weakness

Strength

- Worldly, well traveled, cultured
- Look young
- Tall enough
- Artistic, have good taste
- Good body for fashion
- Have money
- Creative have a lot of ideas
- Respectable professional job

Weakness

- ADD, lack of focus, lack of tenacity
- Disorganized mind
- Older
- Lack charisma
- Emotionally sensitive, state control
- Asian, ethnic minority
- Negativity, depression
- Inability to make friends

Justin Theroux

This guy is the same age and body type as me.

8/10 Chest and Shoulder Workout

Rotator cuff - 10 reps x 4 directions
Shoulder - anterior, lateral, posterior 5lbs x 10 reps
Bench - 1x4, 2x4, 3x4 (full extension 4), 4x4, 5x4, 6x4 (extension 3), 7x12 (extension 2)
Dumbell military press - 5 lbs x 5, 10 lbs x5
Shrugs 10 lbs x 10

Will decrease next session

Shoulder - 5 lbs x 5 reps
Bench - 1x6, 2x6, 3x6, 4x6, 5x12
Military press - 5x10
Shrugs 5 x 10

August goals

4 Dates

Got 1 already

How to get there - 500 online messages
Cold approach 100 - 25/week

Post AA Day 3

- Hold hand and say let's stand here so we won't block traffic
- Hold had and try to guess her profession :)
- Let's go get a cup of coffee
- Come here for a second
- Follow me

Conversation threads

- you have an accent, let me guess, you are from
- What are you up to today? Weather is awesome here. I am from Boston.
- Talk about the situation - dancing/books
- Talk about personality, people I know 

- Tell me how you got into modeling in the beginning 
- how do you keep life from getting too stale

- how do you expand your horizon

- what's your favorite thing in the world
White room
Color
Animal
Water

Post AA Day 2

Banter and polarize from the get go.

- So, aren't you going to tell me I am attractive?
- Need to memorize name
- Squeeze arm
- Shopping for shoes
- What's your favorite thing in the whole world
- You are trouble, you are a trouble maker, are you causing drama
- When I think of French girl I think of - passionate, idealistic, open minded

- Talk like man to woman
4 question game - white room, color, animal, water

Went to the beach to day, French girl talk about her tattoo, how it's a fairly, following her heart.
I get the sense that you are a generally positive, optimistic person.You have a curious mind.
Are your adventurous and spontaneous?

Made 6 approaches today and got one number. I notice that if the girl is already laughing, than I feed off that energy and I become more fun and flirty. The challenge is when the girl is not giving me anything. I need to learn how to lead the interaction.

I think I am ready to move on to day 3.

Post AA Day 1

Eye contact, warm and friendly, project your voice, screening mentality.

Quick situational opener and transition into direct.

Notes from a Natural

Set up and follow through

- When getting a girl's number, tell her I don't text.
- I am not a huge texter. I'll text, but I prefer talking on the phone.
- Ask her, when is the best time to call you?
- Can I give you a call tomorrow night?
- How about I call you tomorrow night?
- I am home chilling right now. Want to talk?
- Are you one of those girls who don't talk on the phone?

- I was a little nervous approaching you earlier, but I am glad I talked to you.
- Thanks for talking to a stranger.
- It's kind of hard talking to meet cool people in LA.
- You know what? You are a really cool girl. This went a lot better than I thought. I didn't expect to meet such a cool girl.
- On Tinder.  I think you are really cute, attractive.

At the beach

- As soon as the energy is dying, wrap it up, give a nice complement at the end.

I am at a point in my life.
They want a guy who know who he is.

Talia - 3 Day Rule.

Post AA Program

1 - Smile, strong eye contact, relaxed body language

Voice exercise
2 - Flirting, joking

- You are trouble, you are a trouble maker, are you causing drama

3 - Leading
4 - Wide rapport
5 - Deep rapport - cold read

 http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/In_the_Middle/br/385_3.html

 1) You have a strong need for others to like and admire you
2) You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
3) You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.
4) Your past relationships have presented problems for you.
5) You can be disciplined and controlled on the outside, and worrisome and insecure on the inside.
6) You sometimes doubt your own decisions.
7) You like change and variety and don't like to be hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.
8) You are independent minded and need proof before accepting others opinions.
9) You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.
10) At times you are extroverted and sociable, while at others you are introverted and reserved.
11) Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic

6 - Setting up date on the spot
7 - Kissing
8 - Groups
9 - Hired guns
10 - Approach when others are listening
11 - Fast walking girls

Current Fitness Status 6/22/2014

Swimming (12:30)

6/20 - 500 meters 15:14
400 meters 14:33
500 meters 16:00

Running (10:30)

1 mile - 10:25
1.5 miles - 14:40 (5/17/2014)

Biking

2 miles - 9:30

Push-ups (50)

(50 by 12/15, 45 by 6/15, 40 by 12/14, 38 by 11/14, 36 by 9/14, 33 by 7/14)

7/28/2014 2 minutes - 35 push-ups
6/22/2014 2 minutes - 31 push-ups
1:30 minutes - 8 push ups
2 minutes - 20 push-ups 5/27/2014

Pull-ups (10)

(10 by 12/15, 8 by 6/15, 5 by 12/14, 4 by 10/14, 3 by 8/14, 2 by 7/14)

6/21/2014 - 1 pull-up

10 pull downs half way - weight 5

Couch surfer, Scandanevia and random thoughts....

This past week I went to Sweden and Finland. It was a very worthwhile and enriching experience. Before I went, I messaged around 20 couch surfing girls in Sweden, and 8 of them responded and agreed to meet up for a drink or coffee!  2 of them even sent me multiple messages. They were decently cute so I decided to correspond with these 2 chicks and plan to meet up with them.

Stockholm is a beautiful city made up of mostly islands. I stayed at Gamla Stan, the old town. I was there for a work related conference so I had to take the subway to the conference everyday. The first evening there I wandered around and headed to this roof top bar with a great view of the city. I casually opened conversation with this tall girl, and it turned out she's from Latvia and she was here for the conference too. I know she's dirt poor so I bought her a drink. She was staring me in the eye the whole time, then knocked her drink off, and started touching my leg to wipe it off even though there was no water on my leg. I thought she was DTF, but then her friends grabbed her because they are all staying at the same house. I probably should have made a more aggressive move etc., but excuses, excuses.

So I arranged to meet one of the couch surfer girls the next night, but she stopped responding. Around 5-6 pm I wandered around Gamla Stan and hit up these Italian girls who also happen to be part of the congress. They were excited to talk to me and asked me to join them in sight seeing. It was cool, but I didn't think I would make too much of a headway following 2 girls. (negativity/ self-sabotage maybe). I have pulled where I stuck with 2 girls the whole night until one girl left and told me to take care of her friend. But at the last minute, the couche surfer girl called me wanted to meet up.

It turned out she was Dutch, not Swedish, but fairly cute, a bit too tall, 5'11- 6'. We hung out, talked, had dinner. She's only been in Sweden 11 days. We walked around the city, and then went for a drink. Everything felt very platonic, and it was then I realized the fallacy of the high response rate from couch surfers. Even though it's obvious that they don't have boy friends that's why there are hanging out with a guy, but if it a platonic tone from the beginning, then it will be harder to change the vibe of the interaction. I did my best to be flirtatious. Eventually I put my arm around her. After 2 drinks, I crab hold of her hand, talking more personal stuff, looked her in the eye and went for the kiss. She was quite into it. But my god damn bladder. I had to pee, and when I came back her roommate had texted her wondering if she is still alive. Anyway we made out some more. I grabbed her hand and headed out. I walked her to my hotel, made out some more in the elevator, but then she started having second thoughts. I took her to my pitched dark room, took off her jacket, and started making out. But after 5 minutes she said, "I don't know what your expectations are..blah, blah. Then she said she needed to go." I walked her to the subway stop, and she still wanted to make out some more, but that was that.
















The 4th day I met with the other couch surfing girl for lunch. She was a redheaded Swede. I think she would have agreed to meet up the night before at 10pm, but maybe I just don't have the killer instinct. Alternatively, if the tone of the e-mail messages hinted at DTFness I would have tried to meet her at night. Anyway she kept staring at me in the beginning as if she had never seen an Asian guy lol. It was cool. We talked a lot about cultures and kept in touch through facebook.

Later that day I went on the cruise from  Stockholm to Helsinki. The cruise was kind of ghetto. There must be a higher class cruise. I chatted up 2 Finnish girl on the boat, danced with one of them. I danced with another Finnish girl later that night, but neither girl was drinking and DTF.

June

Desire, positive attitude, intentness, entitlement, masculinity.
Social, positive confident
Enjoy my trip, be in the moment


5-30 approaches

120 pof, Tinder

2 sets number close
Approach girls where there are people within 5 feet
Approach fast walking girls

Be a scumbag

Paint night

Date with a slightly hotter girl than Katie - Americanized or white

Briefly about my 6 month goal - be dating a girl that is marriage material!

To get there I need to go on dates with about 20 attractive girls.

1000 approached to get 10 dates. About 40 approaches a week.

2000 online messages to get 10 dates.  About 80 messages a week. Will divide up between okcupid, tinder, match, POF.

Will add to this.

Goal for the week - 10 decent conversations with girls
Review juggler conversation technique
Send out 80 pof messages

 6/16 - 6/21

Exude positive energy.
Love your self, self love.
Be masculine, confident, talk loud. Be a leader (Enders game) leading. (Review self instructions)
Be a legit dirt bag. Love women.

Finish OK Cupid Profile
40 approaches including shop girls, groups, where people are watching
Review juggler conversation technique.
10 decent conversations (did not accomplish last week), lead the girl to instant date or sit down
Benzoyl peroxide to help with acne x 5 days
Haircut

6/22 -  6/25

Voice exercise in the car
Meditation
OK Cupid profile
Picture with white coat
Same day, same night date

5/25 - 5/31

Last week was a great success, achieved all the goals that I set out
I planned to get a date and I got one
Got all my approaches in


Things to work on

Don't eject
Leading the girl(watch GLL and internalize different methods and situations where he leads)
- Ask for sun glasses, come here I want to talk to you for a second
Approach 2 sets (done 2x)
Be more animated, louder, facially expressive at work and translate that to talking to girls
- Continue to visualize success

Cold Approach

5 approaches- pretty much done, maybe one more tomorrow

Online Dating

Set-up Match.com profile - did not, but setup Tinder, got a few matches

Hit up some couch surfers in Stockholm (10 a day until I get 3 yes response) - 7 responses

Order white coat on Amazon (Done)

Inner game

Mediate 10 minutes the altered state writing 5 minutes (Monday, Tuesday)
Visualize who I want to be, and being with my ideal girl

Make sure I write out my goals before leaving for Sweden.

6 Month goal -

Have a girlfriend with marriage potential

Action - cold approach and online dating
Will figure out how to have parties with younger girls.

5/18 - 5/24

Be energetic, warm, happy, loud, friendly with people. Speak up, speak loud in the OR. Be that confident and charismatic person. Be masculine and flirtatious with all girls - nurses, pharmacist, shop keepers, cashier.  

Affirmations

Self Instructions when brushing teeth.

Meditate 4 times.
1 - Done, sunday
2 - Thursday
3 - Friday night
4 -Saturday morning

Approaches

20

Pasadena

1 - Asian girl - has BF
2 - 2 set at Banana Republic -  only hit and run, need to make my intention clear next time
3 - JHU - walked off to find her sister
4 - Marie at parking meter - again, early eject since someone else was coming up behind her

5 - Grand Hope Park - engaged with a cool ring, friendly response

Ralphs
6 - Marina looking at apples - scared her, walked off
7 - Korea girl - married
8 - Leggy blonde - pleasant but has BF

9 - Express - cute but married

10 - Target - not cute, would bit bang

Santa Monica
French girl # close
Ukranian in bookstore, super nice but married
Awkward walking girl, seeing someone
Jennifer - In H7M, slowly walked off
Finnish girl with BF
Juliana - Nordstrome, visiting from SD
Carnie - awkward Asian girl with friends
Weird chinese girl with family
Swizerland girl leaving tomorrow
Katy - friendly Russian girl, # close

GLL routines
- you can be my body guard (squeeze arm)
- aren't you gonna tell me I am attractive also
- shopping for shoes?

- cold read. Let me guess where you are from, what you do?

Ask for number on any interaction that the girl looks attracted or last more than 1 minute

Online Dating

Finish OK cupid profile
80 POF messages

Work-out

Swam 400 meters Tuesday
Bike 3.5 miles - 14:25

5/11 - 5/17

Personal goals for the week:

Be more energetic, warm, happy, loud, friendly with people. Speak up in the OR. Be that confident and charismatic person. Be flirtatious with girls. 

Approaches and OLD

6 approaches in DTLA, 15 total
(8-10 in Santa Monica on Sunday)
(3 in DTLA)
(3 Arcadia Mall)
(8 at the Grove)
40 e-mails on online dating sites (done)
Set-up match.com profile

Work-out

Swimming  - Saturday 500 meters, Monday 500 meters (breathing improved by sinking chest down, looking slightly up, and turn the left side more towards the back), Tuesday 400 meters freestyle non-stop, Friday 400 meters

Legs - 1.5 miles 14:40

Upper body x 2 -

Tuesday
Shoulder - Anterior, Lateral, Posterior raises 5lbs x12
Dumb bell military press - 10 lbs x 10
Curls - 15 lbs, 20 lbs x 10
Pull-down - 5 x 10 reps
Seated Row - 5 x 10 reps
Shrugs 10 reps
Lateral core - 5 reps each side

Saturday
Curls - 15 lbs, 20 lbs x 10
Pull-down - 5 x 10 reps, 6 x 8 reps
Seated Row - 5 x 10 reps
Bench press - 10 x 5, 10 x 6

Reverse leg lift  - 2 x 1 minutes

Plank push-ups - Wednesday 10 reps 1:35

Leg lift - 30 seconds x 2

Meditation - 4 days total
Sunday - 10 minutes
Monday - 10 minutes
Saturday - 10 minute, 10 minutes

5/4-5/10 Workouts

Shoulder - Anterior, Lateral, Posterior raises 5lbs x 10
Dumb bell military press - 10 lbs x 5
Curls - 15 lbs, 20 lbs x 10
Pull-down - 5 x 10 reps
Seated Row - 5 x 10 reps
Bench - 5 x 10 reps
Shrugs 10 reps
Lateral core - 5 reps each side

Add these exercise next time - side plank, plank

3 Approaches at Ralphs
1 number

20 messages on POF

Saturday 5/10/2014

Walk 5 minutes on treadmill
Stationary bike 2 miles 8:15

Shoulder - Anterior, Lateral, Posterior raises 5lbs x 12
Dumb bell military press - 10 lbs x 10
Curls - 15 lbs, 20 lbs x 10
Pull-down - 5 x 10 reps
Seated Row - 5 x 10 reps
Plank/Push-ups - 9 in 1:35 mins

Saturday

Workout

Stationary bike - 1 min, 2 min, 3 min, 2 min
Legs abduction and adduction - 10 reps, 15 reps
Air squats - 10 reps, 10 ATG
Dead Lift - 10 reps with 10 lbs
Jumps - Low 10 reps, Mid 10 reps

Current Fittness Status 5/1/2014

Swimming

400 meters 14:33
500 meters 16:00

Running

1 mile - 10:25
1.5 miles - 14:40 (5/17/2014)

Biking

2 miles - 9:30

Push-ups 

1:30 minutes - 8 push ups
2 minutes - 20 push-ups 5/27/2014

Pull-ups
10 by 12/15, 8 by 6/15, 5 by 12/14
10 pull downs half way - weight 5

May 2014

Goals for May

1 - Become a more positive person
2 -  Becoming less sarcastic
3 -  Model cool, confident guys
4 -  Become more masculine
5 -  90 approaches and complete Santa Monica, Grove experiment (develop screening mindset)
Find a way to do 5 approaches between bookstore and downtown.
6 - Be more energetic
7 - Have online profile set up for OK cupid and Match
8 - Go to 2 meet-up events
9 - Develop meditation habits
10 - Be a leader

Tuesday

6 approaches today, 9 more to go.

Monday

15 more approaches to go.

Screening mindset - what this girl's deal is?

Be a little playful. Expressive.

Statistics

Santa Monica

1 - College student - walking slow, good response, has BF GF
2 - German tourist - sitting, good response, traveling with friend
3 - Weird backpacker - walking slow, did not stop
4 - Big butt - in bookstore, negative response. would not bang.
5 - Chilean girl - walking slow, good response, visiting a friend GF
6 - Hungarian - sitting, good response, has BF
7 - Taiwanese girl - sitting, good response, only staying for a day
8 - REI girl - at intersection, good response, but ran off

The Grove

9 - Astrophysicist  - would not bang, has BF, in bookstore
10 - Hot Australian in bookstore. Polite blow off. Polite response. GF
11 - Hot ass girl in tights going to the gym. Walking set. Polite blow off. GF
12 - Hot, hot indirect opener girl work at Splendid. Indirect open. GF
13 - Indirect conversation with spanish driver test girl. Sitting. Married. GF
14 - Walking set - Rassermier?? Would bang. Blow off. GF
15 - Iphone girl. In direct.

The Grove

16 - Raquel - hot, BF came in GF
17 - Emily - Manly hands, strange face, nice legs
18 - Australian actress, friendly, bangable, FB close
19 - Cute,nice legs, walking slowly, accent. Need to be more energetic. BF. GF
20 - Kathryn - bookstore, not super hot, in a rush
21 - Turkish MILF, acting school, walking slow, polite objection

Ralphs

22 - Korean flight attendant - not available
23 - Italian big booty - married, friendly
24 - Hot sexy bitch - neutral response, married with a big rock GF

Ralphs

25 - Nice white girl - good response, BF GF
26 - Cute Filipino girl - good response, BF GF
27 - Italian girl with big tits - good response - # close

Grove - Monday

28 - Ally - cvs super hot, walked off GF
29 - Sitting at farmers market - BF
30 - Super hot Norwegian walking - walked off GF
31 - Cute redhead at crate and barrel - let her walked off GF
32 - Tall girl looking for plates - hot - walked off GF

Ralphs

33 - Ally - cute FIDM girl # close GF
34 - Another FIDM girl gave her my # GF

Hunan Taste

35 - would bang, but did not go for the # close

Santa Monica

36 - Nicole - lives in Brentwood, from the mid-west, walking, friendly GF
37 - Victoria getting married in Canada, walking, friendly GF
38 - In a rush with back pack, not direct enough GF
39 - Accent, harsh brush off
40 - Indirect, server at Mexican restaurant, friendly, didn't get to close
41 -  Hot tourist from NYC, friendly, walking, has boyfriend GF
42 - Half Asian, Half Russian Megan Fox, friendly in Zara with Mom, need to close GF
43 - Shoe store blow out
44 - Super hot blond walking, friendly, but meeting BF GF
45 - HM - cute brunette with nice tits, friendly, but walked off.

Target

46 - Big tit latina - walked off
47 - Young girl, would not bang, BF

H&M

48 - Asian with big tit, married

Arcadia Mall

49 - Hot - Hollywood girl (nice meeting you, friend is there) GF
50 - Cute cantonese girl - need to be aggressive # close every set GF
51 - Prep school girl, indirect, doesn't count

Goal for the next 50 - ignore it when girls are walking off, say hey, I want to talk to you for a second. Be a scumbag, and number close every set.

52 - Outside Launch LA - not too friendly, weak approach

Beverly Center

53 - Echo park hipster at H&M - BF, friendly
54 - Nordstrome rack - very blue eye, BF GF
55 - Yulia from Romania, luke warm, sister around

Target

56 -  Skinny lawyer, would not bang any way
57 -  Getting married, cute, friendly GF

Grove

58 - Brooke from Santa Barbara - try # close
59 - Bartender, BF
60 - Ana from St. Petersburg, married
61 - Jenene reading book GF
62 - Pourutgese girl, no english, would not bang
63 - U Penn girl, friendly, BF GF
64 - Buyer with BF, not quite GF material
65 - Cute divorce attorney, BF GF
66 - Mexico, hottie

10 more

77 - French girl # close
78 - Ukranian in bookstore - Married
79 - Walking set - kind of seeing someone
80 - Jennifer
81 - Finnish girl with a man
82 - Juliana
83 - Carnie - weirded out asain girl
84 - Weird chines girl with family - would not bang
85 - Nice switzerland girl
86 - Katy Russian # close

87 - Web designer # close
88 - Norwegian
89 - Dermatologist - only here for 1 day
90 - Big butt - married
91 - Chelsea - not too receptive
92 - Norwegian 2 sets
93 - Hot 2 set - startled her
94 - Forever 21 - I can't tell you are cute
95 - Eye contact - BF
96 - Young chicks - thanks but no thanks
97 - 24 y/o Russian - BF

Sunday

Plank - 8 push-up in 90 seconds + 5 push-ups in 60 seconds. Goal 10 in 90s x 2.

Yesterday - curls, pull down, shoulder, legs abduction/adduction/glute, biking 6 minutes

8 approaches today, 22 more to go. 

Mindset of Luis

If you are genuine and honest, the right girl will not hurt you.
Appreciate women. Flirt with women everywhere you go.
Not take their shit. You don't want to tip toe around a girl.
Good dating habits.
Someone who will accept me for who I am.
I like you, I feel happy around you.
Self-acceptance.
Masculine traits - speak up, set boundaries.
Share your emotions - happy, excited, positive
On the flip side, man are not emotional, more matter of fact, confident, polite

- What kind of girls do I like? Recognize the type of woman you want.
- Online profile
- Meet-up

Other means of meeting women - Tinder, single cruises, volunteer

Tuesday

Half push-ups x 10 reps

Shoulder - lateral, anterior, posterior raises 10 reps
Dumb bell military press 10 lbs x 10 reps

Curls 15 lbs x 10 reps, 20 lbs x 4 reps

Dead lift with 5 lbs total x 10 reps

Thursday

Visualization affirmations 1 out 3

Plank 1 minute x 5 push-ups x 2 sets
Half push-ups x 10 reps

Rotator cuff exercise x 5 reps in both directions
Shoulder - lateral, anterior, posterior raises 8 x 2 sets.
Dumb bell military press 5 lbs x 5 reps

Curls 10 lbs x 10, 15 lbs x 10 reps
Pull-down 40 lbs x 5 reps, 50 lbs x 5 reps
Seated row 40 lbs x 5 reps, 50 lbs x 5 reps

Dead lift with 10 lbs total x 10 reps
Leg abduction adduction x 15 reps

Anterior head tilt exercise x 2 minutes

Iced elbow and 200mg Ibuprofen

Wednesday

I will start visualization affirmations.

My sister and brother in law will be here Friday, Saturday.

Between now and Saturday I will set the goal of doing 3 visualization affirmations.

Tuesday

Plank 1 minute x 5 push-ups x 2 sets
Shoulder - lateral, anterior, posterior raises 8 x 1 sets.
Curls 10 lbs x 8, 15 lbs x 8 reps
Pull-down 40 lbs x 8 reps
Seated row 40 lbs x 8 reps

Monday

Between Sunday and Monday, 5 more approaches.

30 more to go.

Saturday

Workout

Shoulder - lateral, anterior, posterior raises 8 x 2 sets.
Dumbbell presses 5 lbs x 5 reps
Half push-ups x 10 reps
Planks - 1 minute x 5 push-ups x 2 sets

Affirmation x 2

Life is good, life is beautiful. I am feeling good. I feel awesome. I breathe in the fresh air, in and out, feeling relaxed. With each breath in and out I feel more relaxed. I will act as if I am a confident man. I walk, tall, relaxed, calm, looking men and women in the eye. I will act as if I am a confident men. I will act as if I am a sex men. A men that all women want to fuck. I am a confident man. I am a sexy man. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me. I am a sexual man. I love women. I love my life. I enjoy my life. I am confident, bad ass, sexy, sexual, and masculine. Everywhere I go, women are checking me out, getting wet in her panties, getting horny, wanting to fuck me. I am a cool, bad ass, sexy, good looking motherfucker.  I feel a glowing, warm, clam, power magnetic force around me that draws women towards me. My body language is cool, confident, relaxed, sexy. I can feel women checking me out. I catch the eyes of women checking me out. I am a flirtatious motherfucker. Hehe. I am a sexy confident beast. I am a leader. An alpha male. I live on my own terms. I am confident and sexual. I am good looking. Meeting women is easy. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me :)

Approaches 8 35 more to go

Friday

I made 15 approaches today, got 2 phone numbers and 1 FB
43 more approaches to go.

I really only have 6 days left for the months.

Thursday

Affirmations x 10 minutes

Wednesday

Workout

- Swimming 3 laps
- Curl 10 lbs x 10 reps, 15 lbs x 5 reps x 2 sets
- Air squat x 10, jumps - 2 legged x 5, 1 legged x 5 x 2 (L & R)

Affirmations

Cory Skyy 10 minutes

Approaches

3 approaches, 58 more to go.

Tuesday

10 approaches Monday and Tuesday - 61 more to go.

Week in Review

Approaches

I made 19 approaches this week. 71 More to go.

Dates

1 date on Sunday

Workout

Weight once
Running 30 minutes
Plan 2 x 1 minutes


GOALS FOR COMING WEEK

Approaches

Back to drills

Day 1 (15x)
- Hey, wait a second, you are cute, name
- what are you up to, where are you from, what kind of work do you do

Day 2 (15x)
- Hey, wait a second, you are cute, name, high five
- What are you up to, where are you from, what kind of work do you do

Day 3 (15x)
- High five, you are cute, name
- What are you up to, where are you from, what kind of work do you do

 I really need to make about 24 approaches a week to meet my quota.

Workout

Sunday

Shoulder - Lateral, anterior, posterior 18 reps reach
Half push ups - 10 reps
Pull down - 40lbs x 8
Sitting rows - 40lbs x 6


Affirmations

Minimal goal
- 2x full meditate, alter state writing
- 3x positivity note cards

Online

Activate POF account

Wednesday I think I made at least 2 approaches, 1 yesterday.
I made at least 6-7 approaches today focusing on being sexual.



I will give myself credit for 10 so far this week. I now have 76 approaches to go.

Currently I can see approaches 2 girls a day at the super market or Target for 3 days of the week. That is only 6 girls. I need to plan more time in the bookstore so maybe 4 more girls a week at the book store. That is only 10 total. The mass approaches at the mall has not been very efficient.

I worked out yesterday.

April First

This is starting of a new month. Last month I was able to go on one date from cold approaching. Again this month I will make a total of 90 approaches. I would also like to incorporate working out, and affirmations, meditations into my journal.

First of all today I made 4 approaches. 2 of them done at the supermarket. 86 more to go for April!

My approach goals for this week is to establish sexuality and dominance. I will look the girl in the eye until she looks away. I will think about fucking her as I look her in the eye.

Another big goal regarding approaching is to establish a habit and pattern of going out. It will be something like supermarket 2 times, Target 1 time, bookstore 1 time per week.

Tomorrow is Wednesday. I would like to work out a bit. I like to do 2 days of weights a week along with 2 days of cardio. I also like to do core strengthening and posture exercises.

Affirmations. I like to start doing affirmations again. I've been slacking off on them.

I also like to set up Coffee Meets Bagel by the end of the week.

Sunday

I went to a more suburban mall today. I made my 5 approaches to finish up the 45 approached for the 2 weeks. No luck today again. When I feel good, my body language feels natural. When I don't, I am trying to learn to come across warm, happy, and genuine.

I suppose that's part of the challenge of any art or skill. Kobe Bryant can shoot the lights out on his best days, but when he's in a slump, how does he find a way to perform?

I finally set up a date tonight. High, high flake potential for most of the day with the girls changing plans the last minute again. We'll see :) Stay optimistic!

Saturday

I made about 10 approaches yesterday. They did not go as well. I talked to several very attractive girls, but they all seem to be on the go. One thing I still need to work on is my eye contact and facial expression. Remember Henry's call, cool, friendly demeanor.

5 More approaches to go.

Friday

I approached one girl at the mall, then when to a mixer where I talked to 3 girls. One girl was a cute pediatrician. I got her number along with the number of another not as attractive girl. 

4 approaches 15 more to go.

Thursday

I talked to a Polish girl who has a Cantonese boyfriend.

I went to target. On the way I talked to a half Asian girl.

At Target

- Younger cute girl
- Older woman who was going to a Dodger game
- Cute blonde getting medicine
- Tall Australian girl

I think that's it. 6 girls total.

19 more to go for May!

Another day

Despite a long day at work I stopped by the bookstore on the way home.

25 more approaches for March

Sunday Exercises

Although I had some obligations yesterday, I stopped by the mall anyways and did a few approaches. It started really well, getting phone number from this South African actress. I got another number from this young Argentinian girl. My body language is better now. I did some meditation in the morning. Perhaps that helps with relaxation.

I went shopping at a different mall today. I was exhausted and sleep deprived, but I managed to do one approach.

So in total I talked to 6 girls.

28 more to go.

A link to Forbes top 100 quotes

 http://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2013/05/28/inspirational-quotes/

Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone

Flake City

The girl I met at the supermarket flaked on me. She text much later wanting a rain check. I did not respond. I approached 6 other girls at the shopping center today. I got 1 number, but she was not what I look for in a girlfriend. Although I would love to have sex with her :)

So 34 more approaches to go!

Day 2

I believe I approached 5 girls total in the past few days. I talked to 1 girl at Ralph’s that happen to know a friend of mine. We are suppose to have a date tomorrow. We’ll see. She seem kind of flaky. I also approached 2 other girl at the supermarket yesterday with no luck. Other than that, there were also 2 girls that I met at a business mixer who did not seem like they were there to meet guys. I e-mailed them anyways.

A New Beginning

I just opened up this blog again. When I stopped writing last year, I got into a relationship with a wonderful girl. We had our differences, and things did not work out. A positive note that came out of this relationship is that I know for sure now that a girlfriend is what I really want. I no longer want to sleep with random women without emotional connection.

Starting today, I am putting aside all excuses. I am starting this blog as an accountability announcement of my dedication to find the love of my life. I will make this my number one priority.
There are many path, routes, techniques to finding your potential partner. For now I am sticking with the basics. One guide book suggest speaking to at least 90 girls a month. Since I only have 2 weeks left in March, I will speak to 45 girls. I really only have 8-9 free days out of those 2 weeks. Which means talking to 5 girls a day.

March goal – Speak to 45 girls.

 I promise myself that today I will start a new lifestyle. I will do whatever it takes to become a sexy, confident man who dates beautiful, intelligent women. I will do whatever it takes to achieve this goal. I will not stop until I accomplish it!